Today, we went and picked up S and her sister to visit Raleigh.
We had an easy flowing and great visit with them. This was our first time meeting D, S's sister. It was an instant connection with her too. We saw the house they live in, which had NO baby stuff around - that was relieving for us!!! We also met their pets. :)
We came to Raleigh and ate lunch at Raleigh Times and strolled around downtown. They both said that Raleigh seemed so big, but I guess it does when you come from an area of tons of farmland. Lunch was fantastic, as always. We then came back to our house to show them around. We ended up hanging out in the nursery for a while, just chatting about everything. We learned that S doesn't like or trust birthdad's mom, but is relieved that he's already signed relinquishment of his rights. S is still uncertain about her hospital plan, but did mention that we will need to be there somehow, to take home the little one. :) D expressed her concern with not being a part of this child's life, and we reassured her that we want to keep this relationship open and ongoing; that she would be known as aunt D to the little girl. We talked for a couple of hours about everything and nothing at the same time. It felt so great that our get-to-gethers are natural and easy.
We headed back to their town so D could get to work that evening. We were only planning on dropping them off, but they invited us inside for an official tour of the house and ended up staying to see their little sister and step-dad arrive. We hung around the house like we were part of the family. We played a game with O, the little sister, and heard many family stories to pictures in albums. It was fantastic. We excused ourselves when dinner planning started; we needed to get back to our animals.
It was a great day! We are planning our match meeting within the next week, around their weekend to the beach. We are so thrilled that this relationship is starting off so well and open! The countdown continues.
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Sunday, June 17, 2012
More good news
Some good news...as of Friday night at midnight, the birthfather's rights were terminated!
He willingly (and with some emotion) signed the papers a week before.
We have not met him, but we have left the door open for him to also have an open relationship with us; if and when he is ready.
S had her weekly MD appt. on Thursday and everything still looks great! She's off to DC with her best friend and her family for a long weekend. We hope to have a match meeting with S and her mom the following week to put a plan on the table for the hospital and contact after placement.
We are 35 weeks now! Counting down...
He willingly (and with some emotion) signed the papers a week before.
We have not met him, but we have left the door open for him to also have an open relationship with us; if and when he is ready.
S had her weekly MD appt. on Thursday and everything still looks great! She's off to DC with her best friend and her family for a long weekend. We hope to have a match meeting with S and her mom the following week to put a plan on the table for the hospital and contact after placement.
We are 35 weeks now! Counting down...
Wednesday, June 13, 2012
It's a....
GIRL!!!!!!
We are thrilled to finally announce that we have matched with a birthmom!!! And we are expecting the sweet little girl July 20th!!!
We were contacted by S on Wednesday, May 30, via email and we instantly fell in love with her. We had the wonderful gut feeling that we have been waiting for. Within a few hours, we spoke on the phone with her and her mother. Shelley and I looked at each other and we knew that this was our birthmom. We planned to meet the following Saturday.
The next few days were pure excitement and we fell in love with her even more. We exchanged emails and had positive feedback from our adoption counselor(s). S is 17 years old and lives less than 2 hours away. When we initially talked to S, she was only about 7 weeks away from due date. Needless to say, we felt anxiety about that, but so happy at the same time. We counted down every day to the Saturday we would see her face to face.
After 10 days of waiting, we drove to a mutual town and had lunch together. We met her parents and little sister. Hugs were given immediately with ease and we all fell into conversation quickly. We talked more about ourselves and answered any questions they had. We discussed our hopes with the open adoption. We laughed at how similar our families are. S said over and over how much she loves us and is very excited about being a short drive away. It was a surprisingly relaxed lunch. We drove home with permanent smiles. We were unofficially expecting a little girl in less than 6 weeks. (We don't think, as well as her doctor, that she will make it to exactly 40 wks).
This past Sunday was the longest day for both of us. We were bursting at the seams to tell our family and friends, but we wanted the match to be official. Monday morning, we received an email from S's counselor stating she wanted to match. SML called back right away (I was sleeping in between shifts). WE MATCHED!!!! The final details still need to be planned out in a match meeting, that will happen soon. Nothing is final until after the birth, but....we feel 99% sure that we will have our baby girl in a month!
Tuesday evening, we had our family over for a "mandatory meeting" and revealed our secret. Everyone had a pretty good idea why they were coming over, they just didn't know the details. We shocked everyone with the soon due date and surprised them with the sex of the baby and how close birthmom is to us. Our home was filled with excitement, love, laughter, and hugs!
We are thrilled to finally announce that we have matched with a birthmom!!! And we are expecting the sweet little girl July 20th!!!
We were contacted by S on Wednesday, May 30, via email and we instantly fell in love with her. We had the wonderful gut feeling that we have been waiting for. Within a few hours, we spoke on the phone with her and her mother. Shelley and I looked at each other and we knew that this was our birthmom. We planned to meet the following Saturday.
The next few days were pure excitement and we fell in love with her even more. We exchanged emails and had positive feedback from our adoption counselor(s). S is 17 years old and lives less than 2 hours away. When we initially talked to S, she was only about 7 weeks away from due date. Needless to say, we felt anxiety about that, but so happy at the same time. We counted down every day to the Saturday we would see her face to face.
After 10 days of waiting, we drove to a mutual town and had lunch together. We met her parents and little sister. Hugs were given immediately with ease and we all fell into conversation quickly. We talked more about ourselves and answered any questions they had. We discussed our hopes with the open adoption. We laughed at how similar our families are. S said over and over how much she loves us and is very excited about being a short drive away. It was a surprisingly relaxed lunch. We drove home with permanent smiles. We were unofficially expecting a little girl in less than 6 weeks. (We don't think, as well as her doctor, that she will make it to exactly 40 wks).
This past Sunday was the longest day for both of us. We were bursting at the seams to tell our family and friends, but we wanted the match to be official. Monday morning, we received an email from S's counselor stating she wanted to match. SML called back right away (I was sleeping in between shifts). WE MATCHED!!!! The final details still need to be planned out in a match meeting, that will happen soon. Nothing is final until after the birth, but....we feel 99% sure that we will have our baby girl in a month!
Tuesday evening, we had our family over for a "mandatory meeting" and revealed our secret. Everyone had a pretty good idea why they were coming over, they just didn't know the details. We shocked everyone with the soon due date and surprised them with the sex of the baby and how close birthmom is to us. Our home was filled with excitement, love, laughter, and hugs!
Until ~July 20th, we are using our free time preparing for baby and for get-togethers with S. We are very excited and can't wait to grow our family by one! xoxo
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