August was a little bit of a different month for us. This month was the first full one with having our google ad live and having a more open profile.
We had 10 letters go out this month to birthmoms, which is pretty high again. :)
We've noticed more traffic to our website; some of which is coming through our google ad.
So, birthparents are looking at us, with repeat visits as well. We just wait for a phone call or email.
Thursday, September 20, 2012
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Contacts, but nothing serious
So, we've had two contacts within a week, but neither one is a reality.
We were called by TM Sunday afternoon and at first things were going okay. Then she started saying things that I wouldn't think a birthmom would be thinking about initially, such as wanting to deliver away from home, stating that she does not need financial support, and specifics of her pregnancy. She was very needy the rest of the day and constantly texted and emailed us. We received a photo of her "belly." She sent pictures of her and dad. She also wanted us to go to Walmart and pick up a photo order, which ironically was not there that evening.
We skyped that first night, which was odd, since she was laying in bed and watching TV at the same time. She told us that she came out to her family this past January, but had to text that piece of info to us while on skype. But, if so, how did the baby come after knowing she was gay?
The next day, TM called us upset after trying to talk to a counselor at IAC, who supposedly was rude. After finding another counselor to talk with her, she still wasn't content. We also learned that at the time of conception she was legally married (to a homosexual man) to allow her to live off of military base with her girlfriend. Things were just too coincidental and felt like they didn't add up.
We talked to our counselor about everything and determined that she was more than likely an emotional scam - regardless of being pregnant, wanting someone to be a best friend, someone to sympathize with her, someone to support her. We felt that TM "being gay" was a way for her to relate to us. We put up some boundaries for contacting us and after that, never heard back from her.
That same week, on Saturday, we had another birthmom, AF, contact us. She was looking for someone to adopt her nine month old son. We had little conversations via email with her and learned that she initially was looking for someone to adopt her son at birth, but it fell through. Her Aunt became the guardian and caretaker for the boy while AF retained legal rights. AF doesn't feel that she can provide for her son, already taking care of her 2 yr old daughter, and wants him to have a better home than with his aunt. Supposedly the aunt is denying some visits and enforcing religion that AF doesn't agree with. AF expressed concern wtih her son not being taken care of properly.
After talking and thinking for a few days, we decided that we are not at a position in our life where we can bring a nine month old into our home properly. It'll take transition time, at least a dedicated three months off from work, and even though he will have a developmental and physical exam done, we don't know what sort of delays and issues he may have. We know that there's another family that can properly give him 110%.
We are still having lots of visits to our website and continue to wait.
We were called by TM Sunday afternoon and at first things were going okay. Then she started saying things that I wouldn't think a birthmom would be thinking about initially, such as wanting to deliver away from home, stating that she does not need financial support, and specifics of her pregnancy. She was very needy the rest of the day and constantly texted and emailed us. We received a photo of her "belly." She sent pictures of her and dad. She also wanted us to go to Walmart and pick up a photo order, which ironically was not there that evening.
We skyped that first night, which was odd, since she was laying in bed and watching TV at the same time. She told us that she came out to her family this past January, but had to text that piece of info to us while on skype. But, if so, how did the baby come after knowing she was gay?
The next day, TM called us upset after trying to talk to a counselor at IAC, who supposedly was rude. After finding another counselor to talk with her, she still wasn't content. We also learned that at the time of conception she was legally married (to a homosexual man) to allow her to live off of military base with her girlfriend. Things were just too coincidental and felt like they didn't add up.
We talked to our counselor about everything and determined that she was more than likely an emotional scam - regardless of being pregnant, wanting someone to be a best friend, someone to sympathize with her, someone to support her. We felt that TM "being gay" was a way for her to relate to us. We put up some boundaries for contacting us and after that, never heard back from her.
That same week, on Saturday, we had another birthmom, AF, contact us. She was looking for someone to adopt her nine month old son. We had little conversations via email with her and learned that she initially was looking for someone to adopt her son at birth, but it fell through. Her Aunt became the guardian and caretaker for the boy while AF retained legal rights. AF doesn't feel that she can provide for her son, already taking care of her 2 yr old daughter, and wants him to have a better home than with his aunt. Supposedly the aunt is denying some visits and enforcing religion that AF doesn't agree with. AF expressed concern wtih her son not being taken care of properly.
After talking and thinking for a few days, we decided that we are not at a position in our life where we can bring a nine month old into our home properly. It'll take transition time, at least a dedicated three months off from work, and even though he will have a developmental and physical exam done, we don't know what sort of delays and issues he may have. We know that there's another family that can properly give him 110%.
We are still having lots of visits to our website and continue to wait.
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